I'm pretty sure that my baby's first words will be along the lines of "what the fuck". When I mentioned this possibility to my father, he calmly suggested that it's more likely to be "douche bag". My husband is betting on "balls", but that's just because we play episodes of Big Bang Theory all the time.
The reality is, I swear around my kid all the time. Not AT her, you understand, just around her. I swear when my husband and I are discussing current events over breakfast. To be honest, I think it's impressive we find the time to do that, with or without the smut. I swear when I chat with my girlfriends. I swear when I drive. A lot, actually. And very creatively.
My daughter is with me pretty much 24-7, so she hears all of it.
I have tried cleaning up my language around her, but it's just not working. Sometimes it makes it worse.
So I have decided to just be OK with it. Yeah, it's not going to win me any mother of the year awards, but it keeps me sane. And I figure if my kid hears this from me, rather than some snot-nosed little jerk in kindergarden, then so be it.
The thing is, we do all sorts of things around our kids that we don't want them to do. We drink, park badly, j-walk, eat junk food, wear overly sexy clothes, smack our partner's ass when they are wearing particularly fetching pants... I don't want my daughter to do any of that, but it doesn't mean I'm going to stop.
And when eventually she does start doing those things, is it really so bad for her to see them as a normal part of being an adult? I mean, she's going to do them anyway...
If swearing is as integral to your personality as it is to mine, I say don't worry about it too much. I don't think your little treasure will be telling these stories to their therapist some day.
Maybe try to clean up the worst of it. For example, the other day some lady cut me off and I almost called her a syphilitic whore. But my daughter was in the back seat. So I just implored the driver to remove her head from her sphincter. I may have also maligned her parentage a bit.
But I think my little girl is more likely to remember the music class we went to, and the book we read after, and the cuddles on the sofa after that. I love her, and I'm pretty sure she loves me, filthy mouth and all.
Friday, February 21, 2014
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
Stroller Wars - A Comprehensive Review of Strollers
I live in Uppababy Country. Seriously, when I go to my mommy & me classes, there are usually 25-30 strollers parked outside the community centre. Of those, at least 20 are Uppababy. The rest are a mix of "other" and we usually get pitying looks from the other moms.
On the other side of the main street is Bugaboo Village. Same story, different brand. The Starbucks I like to go to is in the middle of Bugaboo village square, and again, I'm the odd one out.
Then I joined a mommy group outside my neighbourhood, and lo and behold, we all drove different strollers. Having found myself with the perfect focus group, I had to do a comprehensive review.
Features to look for
1. Age range - not all strollers are compatible with newborns, or with bucket seats.
2. Car seat compatibility - many strollers need adapters to fit car seats, and most have only a limited number of brands they work with. If you have a car seat in mind, make sure it will fit your stroller, or vice versa.
3. Basket - at the very least, it will need to hold your diaper bag, so it should be big enough and easily accessible.
4. Lifestyle - stroller should be light enough and narrow enough to fit your needs. Do you need larger wheels for rough terrain or snow? Do you need an option to attach a second seat for another child? Do you need an adjustable handle for a taller or shorter parent? How easy is it to fold - this is critical especially if you will be in and out of the car a lot.
5. Price - you will likely have more than one stroller over your child's first 3 years, so don't overspend.
6. Style - let's face it, you want to push a cute stroller. How you define cute is of course up to you
Brands
Uppababy
The most popular with the yummy mummy set, an Uppababy Vista will set you back about $800. It comes with a convenient bassinet and a seat that can be forward or rear-facing. It has the best shopping basket, by far, but is also heavy as all get out (25 pounds) and wide as a tank.
If you are not too fussed about the bassinet, the Cruz is about $300 cheaper, and 3 pounds lighter. It has the same great shopping basket.
Fun Fact: Marshall and Lilly's baby on "How I Met Your Mother" is sporting an ice blue Cruz in season 9!
Bugaboo & Stokke
I put these in the same category since they are both over a grand. Sorry, but $1,000 is a LOT of money, even if the stroller does look better than my first car.
On the plus side, these come with a wide array of fancy accessories, and in a rainbow of colours. The strollers transform into all sorts of convenient set-ups, and are ergonomically aligned for both mom and dad. The Stokke was on a special pedestal in my local mommy store.
However, at that price, they would also have to change diapers for me to even consider them.
Baby Jogger
As a proud owner of a City Mini GT, I love, love, love the City series. At $400, you get a smaller stroller that you can fold with the lift of a handle in the middle of the seat. Seriously, it is the reason to buy this stroller.
The only draw-back is the basket, which is a pain in the butt to access and is kinda small. But if you are looking to zip around town, or fold it in and out of the car all the time, this is a super easy stroller at a great price.
BOB, Bumbleride, Phil & Ted
Of the "Jogger" options, I would recommend the Bumbleride. It's the easiest to fold, and the slickest looking. Phil & Ted is the easiest to steer, but painful to fold. BOB is a bit of a mess, and feels unstable.
That being said, these seem to be the longest-used options. Many moms I talked to ended up switching their other strollers for either an umbrella stroller or a jogging stroller once their baby hit about 9 months. At $400-$500 each, the price is right too.
Graco
This was the choice of commuter moms. Apparently the Gracos are the easiest to get on buses and subways. They still offer good baskets and large wheels, with easy steering.
They also have the widest choice of compatible car seats which often come as part of their travel system packages.
The one complaint I have heard is that they start to look used a little too quickly.
Bottom Line
The best advice I got was from a friend of mine who has 4 kids. She showed me her garage, where she had 7 strollers lined up. She said, "Make sure that you are ready to change strollers as your child's needs and your needs change".
You may decide that you need a smaller, lighter stroller. Or you may have another baby and need a double. Or you may start jogging or hiking and need an all-terrain stroller. Or God knows what else might change.
In retrospect, I love my City Mini GT, but occasionally I still regret not getting a Bumbleride because I love the look of it. It may be shallow, but such is life.
The biggest mistake I think, is to overspend on a first stroller when you don't really know yet what life with a baby will be like. Buy something flexible that will allow you to go out of the house with your baby and be ready for a change.
I am now shopping for an umbrella stroller, and will do another review once I'm done with that research.
On the other side of the main street is Bugaboo Village. Same story, different brand. The Starbucks I like to go to is in the middle of Bugaboo village square, and again, I'm the odd one out.
Features to look for
1. Age range - not all strollers are compatible with newborns, or with bucket seats.
2. Car seat compatibility - many strollers need adapters to fit car seats, and most have only a limited number of brands they work with. If you have a car seat in mind, make sure it will fit your stroller, or vice versa.
3. Basket - at the very least, it will need to hold your diaper bag, so it should be big enough and easily accessible.
4. Lifestyle - stroller should be light enough and narrow enough to fit your needs. Do you need larger wheels for rough terrain or snow? Do you need an option to attach a second seat for another child? Do you need an adjustable handle for a taller or shorter parent? How easy is it to fold - this is critical especially if you will be in and out of the car a lot.
5. Price - you will likely have more than one stroller over your child's first 3 years, so don't overspend.
6. Style - let's face it, you want to push a cute stroller. How you define cute is of course up to you
Brands
Uppababy
The most popular with the yummy mummy set, an Uppababy Vista will set you back about $800. It comes with a convenient bassinet and a seat that can be forward or rear-facing. It has the best shopping basket, by far, but is also heavy as all get out (25 pounds) and wide as a tank.
If you are not too fussed about the bassinet, the Cruz is about $300 cheaper, and 3 pounds lighter. It has the same great shopping basket.
Fun Fact: Marshall and Lilly's baby on "How I Met Your Mother" is sporting an ice blue Cruz in season 9!
Bugaboo & Stokke
I put these in the same category since they are both over a grand. Sorry, but $1,000 is a LOT of money, even if the stroller does look better than my first car.
On the plus side, these come with a wide array of fancy accessories, and in a rainbow of colours. The strollers transform into all sorts of convenient set-ups, and are ergonomically aligned for both mom and dad. The Stokke was on a special pedestal in my local mommy store.
However, at that price, they would also have to change diapers for me to even consider them.
Baby Jogger
As a proud owner of a City Mini GT, I love, love, love the City series. At $400, you get a smaller stroller that you can fold with the lift of a handle in the middle of the seat. Seriously, it is the reason to buy this stroller.
The only draw-back is the basket, which is a pain in the butt to access and is kinda small. But if you are looking to zip around town, or fold it in and out of the car all the time, this is a super easy stroller at a great price.
BOB, Bumbleride, Phil & Ted
Of the "Jogger" options, I would recommend the Bumbleride. It's the easiest to fold, and the slickest looking. Phil & Ted is the easiest to steer, but painful to fold. BOB is a bit of a mess, and feels unstable.
That being said, these seem to be the longest-used options. Many moms I talked to ended up switching their other strollers for either an umbrella stroller or a jogging stroller once their baby hit about 9 months. At $400-$500 each, the price is right too.
Graco
This was the choice of commuter moms. Apparently the Gracos are the easiest to get on buses and subways. They still offer good baskets and large wheels, with easy steering.
They also have the widest choice of compatible car seats which often come as part of their travel system packages.
The one complaint I have heard is that they start to look used a little too quickly.
Bottom Line
The best advice I got was from a friend of mine who has 4 kids. She showed me her garage, where she had 7 strollers lined up. She said, "Make sure that you are ready to change strollers as your child's needs and your needs change".
You may decide that you need a smaller, lighter stroller. Or you may have another baby and need a double. Or you may start jogging or hiking and need an all-terrain stroller. Or God knows what else might change.
In retrospect, I love my City Mini GT, but occasionally I still regret not getting a Bumbleride because I love the look of it. It may be shallow, but such is life.
The biggest mistake I think, is to overspend on a first stroller when you don't really know yet what life with a baby will be like. Buy something flexible that will allow you to go out of the house with your baby and be ready for a change.
I am now shopping for an umbrella stroller, and will do another review once I'm done with that research.
Sunday, February 2, 2014
Baby Clothing - How to Dodge the Expensive Cuteness Grenade
Show of hands - how many of you had baby clothes that your baby never, ever wore? I'm putting away clothes with the tags still on, and I'm pondering the great scam that is baby fashion.
In retrospect, there are ways to navigate the minefield, but nobody tells new mothers this. No, they bombard you with images if impossibly tiny little dresses and shirts and onesies with cute prints that cost $34.99 each. Never mind that your baby will stain them irreparably with the first poop blow-out. You are a bad mother if you don't buy them!
Practicality
First off, most baby clothes are designed by sadists with a flair for cute prints. Why is it so freaking impossible to find onesies that don't go over the head? Yes, sir, that's exactly what I need for my first foray into motherhood - wrestling my baby's head through the inadequately sized neck hole of your creation.
And God forbid the baby had a blowout. Have you tried to take a poop encrusted onesie over the head of a screaming newborn? They are not impressed. They scream louder.
Thankfully my mother in law is French and thoughtfully brought some onesies over from Lyon. But what about this side of the ocean? ParadeBaby.com and occasionally the Gap have them. Otherwise you are completely screwed.
Cost
A footed sleeper can cost you anywhere from $5 at Walmart or Target , to about $10-15 at Carter's , or $25 at the Gap. Or course, there are the more advanced designer options that will cost way more, but seriously, you do not need that at all. As long as the clothes withstand laundering every other day, you are fine.
Size and Count
You will get as shower gifts a bazillion onesies for 0-3 months. You need about 8. All others will not be worn.
You will also get about fifty dresses / suits / jackets that your baby will never, ever wear except for pictures. They are a pain in the ass to put on, and you will be tired.
What about after?
Once your baby has outgrown the clothes, you have three options:
1. Save them for baby #2
This is usually a good to do anyway, especially for gender-neutral items.
2. Give them away
You can do a mommy sale or try second-hand stores or Kijiji.
3. Get crafty
There are small businesses that can help you turn your baby clothes into lovely quilts, pillows, collages, and other practical items that will keep your baby memories close.
Bottom Line
Your fitness as a parent is not dependent on your child's clothing. Trust me, babies are cute no matter what. They are designed to be that way. Go cheap, go practical, and relax.
In retrospect, there are ways to navigate the minefield, but nobody tells new mothers this. No, they bombard you with images if impossibly tiny little dresses and shirts and onesies with cute prints that cost $34.99 each. Never mind that your baby will stain them irreparably with the first poop blow-out. You are a bad mother if you don't buy them!
Practicality
First off, most baby clothes are designed by sadists with a flair for cute prints. Why is it so freaking impossible to find onesies that don't go over the head? Yes, sir, that's exactly what I need for my first foray into motherhood - wrestling my baby's head through the inadequately sized neck hole of your creation.
And God forbid the baby had a blowout. Have you tried to take a poop encrusted onesie over the head of a screaming newborn? They are not impressed. They scream louder.
Thankfully my mother in law is French and thoughtfully brought some onesies over from Lyon. But what about this side of the ocean? ParadeBaby.com and occasionally the Gap have them. Otherwise you are completely screwed.
Cost
A footed sleeper can cost you anywhere from $5 at Walmart or Target , to about $10-15 at Carter's , or $25 at the Gap. Or course, there are the more advanced designer options that will cost way more, but seriously, you do not need that at all. As long as the clothes withstand laundering every other day, you are fine.
Size and Count
You will get as shower gifts a bazillion onesies for 0-3 months. You need about 8. All others will not be worn.
You will also get about fifty dresses / suits / jackets that your baby will never, ever wear except for pictures. They are a pain in the ass to put on, and you will be tired.
What about after?
Once your baby has outgrown the clothes, you have three options:
1. Save them for baby #2
This is usually a good to do anyway, especially for gender-neutral items.
2. Give them away
You can do a mommy sale or try second-hand stores or Kijiji.
3. Get crafty
There are small businesses that can help you turn your baby clothes into lovely quilts, pillows, collages, and other practical items that will keep your baby memories close.
Bottom Line
Your fitness as a parent is not dependent on your child's clothing. Trust me, babies are cute no matter what. They are designed to be that way. Go cheap, go practical, and relax.
Monday, November 25, 2013
Sex post baby - your husband is important too!
My husband and I are not those obnoxious twice-a-day sex married couples. Frankly we have busy lives and some nights I'd rather pass out than have sex with anyone, including my husband or a hypothetical Nathan Fillion / Adam Levine combination man that would truly be God's gift to this woman.
But if a week goes by with no sex, I start to get antsy and annoyed. So we had to work out the post baby loving pretty darn quickly.
According to an instant mommy poll at a recent Starbucks stroller summit, there are three options for sex post-baby:
Option 1: Sex while baby is sleeping
While your baby is sleeping or otherwise busy, you get it on a few feet away while hoping that your baby will not be telling this story to their therapist one day. This option is easy, and it's the one we opted for. Our baby crib has solid panels so she can't see us, and in the middle of the night we can both get it on AND cuddle afterwards - winning combination.
Some parents may worry that this will warp their baby, but frankly at that point you might as well worry that they will remember coming out of your vagina. It's silly.
Option 2: Babysitting
In this option, you get a babysitter and have sex in a hotel room, the back seat of your car, or upstairs in your bedroom. While this is a lovely option for a special occasion (e.g an anniversary) and I fully plan to leverage it more frequently when the baby is older and we can leave her overnight with her grandparents, for now it's too much of a bother.
For starters, when I have help I use the time to run errands and see doctors, etc. I'm also too old to have sex in the back of my Honda. And while we have had sex while one of our parents watched the baby downstairs, it was rather hurried and not really a long-term option.
Option 3: Wait til later
This option usually results in divorce, or in Option 4: Banging the secretary and/or electrician
I'm sure there are other ways parents have found (please share), but the important thing is to find ways to be intimate. I think the reason that so many divorces happen after the kids come is because parents forget to prioritize their partners. Soon you are just a parent, and no longer a spouse, and that's not viable long-term.
One more note. In order to facilitate the aforementioned intimacy, you have to make an effort to be sexy. Wear sexy underwear, wax your legs, put on a nice skirt. Shave your beard, put on nice boxers, dab on some cologne. It's hard when you are sleep-deprived and cranky, but your relationship is worth it.
But if a week goes by with no sex, I start to get antsy and annoyed. So we had to work out the post baby loving pretty darn quickly.
According to an instant mommy poll at a recent Starbucks stroller summit, there are three options for sex post-baby:
Option 1: Sex while baby is sleeping
While your baby is sleeping or otherwise busy, you get it on a few feet away while hoping that your baby will not be telling this story to their therapist one day. This option is easy, and it's the one we opted for. Our baby crib has solid panels so she can't see us, and in the middle of the night we can both get it on AND cuddle afterwards - winning combination.
Some parents may worry that this will warp their baby, but frankly at that point you might as well worry that they will remember coming out of your vagina. It's silly.
Option 2: Babysitting
In this option, you get a babysitter and have sex in a hotel room, the back seat of your car, or upstairs in your bedroom. While this is a lovely option for a special occasion (e.g an anniversary) and I fully plan to leverage it more frequently when the baby is older and we can leave her overnight with her grandparents, for now it's too much of a bother.
For starters, when I have help I use the time to run errands and see doctors, etc. I'm also too old to have sex in the back of my Honda. And while we have had sex while one of our parents watched the baby downstairs, it was rather hurried and not really a long-term option.
Option 3: Wait til later
This option usually results in divorce, or in Option 4: Banging the secretary and/or electrician
I'm sure there are other ways parents have found (please share), but the important thing is to find ways to be intimate. I think the reason that so many divorces happen after the kids come is because parents forget to prioritize their partners. Soon you are just a parent, and no longer a spouse, and that's not viable long-term.
One more note. In order to facilitate the aforementioned intimacy, you have to make an effort to be sexy. Wear sexy underwear, wax your legs, put on a nice skirt. Shave your beard, put on nice boxers, dab on some cologne. It's hard when you are sleep-deprived and cranky, but your relationship is worth it.
Monday, October 28, 2013
Having a baby is not a free pass to be an ass!
Since I had my daughter, people are noticeably more lenient. They open doors for me more, o get the special parking spot at the mall, restaurant service is faster and nicer. I have a ready excuse for being late or for refusing invitations. People expect me to be tired and cranky, and they are ok with my messy house.
I also expect leeway from strangers. If one of us has to step off the sidewalk, it will be you, not my stroller. If my baby is crying, I will still pay for my groceries while she disturbs your peace. Sorry.
And I get the occasional perk which, while not expected, is certainly appreciated. A lovely tattooed biker let me get in front of him in line at the passport office. A sweet teenage girl actually threw away a dirty diaper for me as I was juggling my baby and the diaper bag in the ladies room.
These things I'm sure are because of the cuteness of my daughter, and because our society, rightfully, protects yung babies and their mothers.
But if you take advantage of that, it makes you a colossal b*tch. It really does.
If your baby is crying in a restaurant and you do nothing to soothe them...
If you cut in line in front of others as if it is your God-given right...
If you leave your child's dirty diapers around, or, like that real cow in Vancouver, let them pee on public property...
If you use your stroller as a bulldozer in crowds areas...
If you leverage your baby to an unfair advantage, such as getting a reserved table at a restaurant, or the seat n a plane someone paid for...
If you expect others to cater to your evy whim...
... and pay your way...
Then you are in violation of the social contract, ruining it for other mothers, and we all hate you.
If you have been blessed with a child, then treat that blessing with respect. Otherwise it will bite you in the butt eventually. Or at least I hope it will.
I also expect leeway from strangers. If one of us has to step off the sidewalk, it will be you, not my stroller. If my baby is crying, I will still pay for my groceries while she disturbs your peace. Sorry.
And I get the occasional perk which, while not expected, is certainly appreciated. A lovely tattooed biker let me get in front of him in line at the passport office. A sweet teenage girl actually threw away a dirty diaper for me as I was juggling my baby and the diaper bag in the ladies room.
These things I'm sure are because of the cuteness of my daughter, and because our society, rightfully, protects yung babies and their mothers.
But if you take advantage of that, it makes you a colossal b*tch. It really does.
If your baby is crying in a restaurant and you do nothing to soothe them...
If you cut in line in front of others as if it is your God-given right...
If you leave your child's dirty diapers around, or, like that real cow in Vancouver, let them pee on public property...
If you use your stroller as a bulldozer in crowds areas...
If you leverage your baby to an unfair advantage, such as getting a reserved table at a restaurant, or the seat n a plane someone paid for...
If you expect others to cater to your evy whim...
... and pay your way...
Then you are in violation of the social contract, ruining it for other mothers, and we all hate you.
If you have been blessed with a child, then treat that blessing with respect. Otherwise it will bite you in the butt eventually. Or at least I hope it will.
Monday, September 23, 2013
How to raise a child on less than $1000 per year
When the Fraser Institute report on the cost of raising a child came out proclaiming you can raise a child on $4000 a year, the proverbial shit hit the fan. How can you raise a child on 4k a year when the cost of daycare alone is upwards of 8k, and that's if you are lucky. Many parents pay 2 to 3 times that much.
The reality is, the Fraser Institute has no interest in analyzing the cost to raise a child. They just want to push their conservative agenda, and it's astonishingly easy to doctor the numbers. To prove it, I decided to show you can raise a child on less than one thousand. Here is how:
Food: live in the country and grow most of your own food. Junior better not have any diary restrictions,
Diapers: you will be using cloth diapers, and washing them by hand since you can't afford a washing machine. The cloth diapers will be made of your old t-shirts.
Clothing: you see those curtains above your kitchen sink? You don't need them since you live in the middle of nowhere. Cut and sew.
Furniture: the LCBO gives away free cardboard boxes
Daycare: that will be performed by your mother and mother-in-law, who live with you
Healthcare: you only need the bare minimum, so your child will not have what you can suckle from the government
Alcohol: you will be drinking heavily, so half of the $1000 goes here. See Daycare as to why you will need so much booze
After-School enrichment: none - your child don't need no school to work at a minimum wage job
Vacations: the child will be working for his or her keep so, yeah, no vacations
After school programs : see vacations
Books and school supplies: this is where he other $500 will go, since you can't really get away from it
Toys, gifts, miscellaneous : hand crafted by grandpa from the finest driftwood
Now, throw in another $3000 and you can actually feed your child. Progress!
The question is not whether you can raise your child on $4000 a year. You can do a lot of things if you are hard pressed to do so.
The question is, do you want to raise your child that way? And do we want to build a society that presupposes hat this kind of childhood is a perfectly acceptable norm?
I for one would like to see every member of the Fraser Institute put their money where their mouth is and have their children live on $4000 a year. I'd bet that amount wouldn't even cover their shoe allowance.
If you can show me how to raise an average Canadian child on $4000 a year, AND you'd be willing to raise yor own child that way, please drop me a line - I would love to hear all about it.
The reality is, the Fraser Institute has no interest in analyzing the cost to raise a child. They just want to push their conservative agenda, and it's astonishingly easy to doctor the numbers. To prove it, I decided to show you can raise a child on less than one thousand. Here is how:
Food: live in the country and grow most of your own food. Junior better not have any diary restrictions,
Diapers: you will be using cloth diapers, and washing them by hand since you can't afford a washing machine. The cloth diapers will be made of your old t-shirts.
Clothing: you see those curtains above your kitchen sink? You don't need them since you live in the middle of nowhere. Cut and sew.
Furniture: the LCBO gives away free cardboard boxes
Daycare: that will be performed by your mother and mother-in-law, who live with you
Healthcare: you only need the bare minimum, so your child will not have what you can suckle from the government
Alcohol: you will be drinking heavily, so half of the $1000 goes here. See Daycare as to why you will need so much booze
After-School enrichment: none - your child don't need no school to work at a minimum wage job
Vacations: the child will be working for his or her keep so, yeah, no vacations
After school programs : see vacations
Books and school supplies: this is where he other $500 will go, since you can't really get away from it
Toys, gifts, miscellaneous : hand crafted by grandpa from the finest driftwood
Now, throw in another $3000 and you can actually feed your child. Progress!
The question is not whether you can raise your child on $4000 a year. You can do a lot of things if you are hard pressed to do so.
The question is, do you want to raise your child that way? And do we want to build a society that presupposes hat this kind of childhood is a perfectly acceptable norm?
I for one would like to see every member of the Fraser Institute put their money where their mouth is and have their children live on $4000 a year. I'd bet that amount wouldn't even cover their shoe allowance.
If you can show me how to raise an average Canadian child on $4000 a year, AND you'd be willing to raise yor own child that way, please drop me a line - I would love to hear all about it.
Saturday, September 21, 2013
To the Facebook mom lifting weights - Screw public opinion!
When Ms. Ellison posted a photo of herself, wildly pregnant and living weights, she was lambasted left and right as horribly irresponsible, stupid, and downright evil. For exercising while pregnant.
What is people's problem with this? This mom has been doing this type of exercise for years. It's not like she decided to take it up when the pregnancy test came back positive.
During pregnancy is not the right time to start a new exercise regimen, but to continue your old one is perfectly healthy. Should runners stop running? Should yogis stop yoga? Ms Ellison happens to be more hard core in her fitness endeavors and good for her! I'm sure she will have an easier labour and easier recovery for it.
When I was pregnant, perfect strangers saw fit to comment on my coffee drinking. When I pointed out that they were morons, and also it was tea, they felt it their duty to warn me that some teas cause premature labour. And birth defects. And probably hunger and disease.
My best friend got a lecture for wearing high heel shoes at 7 mints pregnant. They were 2 inch stacked heels - the horror!
A coworker had a sip of champagne at a wedding at 8 months. From the uproar you'd think she was main lining crack while kicking puppies.
At the grocery store I saw some total bitch touch a pregnant lady's belly without permission while exclaiming how she really shouldn't be out during flu season. I wanted to smack her, but you can't beat that level of stupid out of people.
Honestly, we get bombarded with information when we are pregnant. Believe me, you are not telling us anything we haven't heard already. So keep your nosy, self-righteous opinions to yourself.
To the mom lifting weights, and the mom taking a sip of alcohol, or eating a deli sandwich, or wearing heels - do what you feel is right to keep yourself and your baby healthy and sane. And to hell with everyone else!
What is people's problem with this? This mom has been doing this type of exercise for years. It's not like she decided to take it up when the pregnancy test came back positive.
During pregnancy is not the right time to start a new exercise regimen, but to continue your old one is perfectly healthy. Should runners stop running? Should yogis stop yoga? Ms Ellison happens to be more hard core in her fitness endeavors and good for her! I'm sure she will have an easier labour and easier recovery for it.
When I was pregnant, perfect strangers saw fit to comment on my coffee drinking. When I pointed out that they were morons, and also it was tea, they felt it their duty to warn me that some teas cause premature labour. And birth defects. And probably hunger and disease.
My best friend got a lecture for wearing high heel shoes at 7 mints pregnant. They were 2 inch stacked heels - the horror!
A coworker had a sip of champagne at a wedding at 8 months. From the uproar you'd think she was main lining crack while kicking puppies.
At the grocery store I saw some total bitch touch a pregnant lady's belly without permission while exclaiming how she really shouldn't be out during flu season. I wanted to smack her, but you can't beat that level of stupid out of people.
Honestly, we get bombarded with information when we are pregnant. Believe me, you are not telling us anything we haven't heard already. So keep your nosy, self-righteous opinions to yourself.
To the mom lifting weights, and the mom taking a sip of alcohol, or eating a deli sandwich, or wearing heels - do what you feel is right to keep yourself and your baby healthy and sane. And to hell with everyone else!
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